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  • You have your experience as a local and I have my experience as a tourist and both of us is right in our own view of Japan.

    I experience the assholeness of Japanese people towards my young family. Making us feel like a second class citizen for disturbing them with my crying kid. Being turned away from restaurants for having a kid. Not letting me rent a stroller because my kid is 5 days older than the cutoff birthday at Universal studios. From security guards asking me to quiet down my kid because he is having a tantrum.

    You’re right, maybe it’s not that they hate kids. Maybe they just hate tourists. Whatever is the case, those places I have visited are not family friendly.

    I will say that the people of 琉球 doesn’t act like this.




  • My experience has been in Tokyo and Osaka. I have a son that cries a lot. I’m not sure how many kids you have. That might be our difference.

    My terrible experience started on the plane to Osaka. From Taipei to Osaka on Peach Airlines.

    My son was using his tablet that was sitting on the tray which made the Japanese woman in front of us mean mug us and eventually complained to us about the kid tapping his screen.

    Then getting off the plane, we rode the train and bus to a station. Every seat designated for kids and elderly was taken up by young adults. My son was tired and started to cry and was melting on the train, directly in front of a girl who was sitting in those seats. Instead of giving up the seat, she put on her headphones and glared at us for annoying her. Sure SHE might be disabled, but it seems like every spot is taken up by disabled people. I never once saw someone get up from their seat to let a young family have their seat.

    Then we were at some big train station and there was 4 or 5 elevators. The far left one was designated for elderly and strollers. But each time the elevator opened, it was fun of people. Nobody got out. Just pushed the close button faster. We ended up carrying the stroller up the escalator, which the guard yelled at us for doing.

    At restaurants, we were regularly denied entry because we had a kid with us.

    As a long term resident, perhaps the problem isn’t that there isn’t these problems. It’s that you don’t see it.

    Next time look at who’s carrying the baby while walking on the street. Look at the father and see how empty handed they are.




  • My wife and I loves Japan and we visit quite often prior to having kids. Once we had kids, the people’s attitude changes towards you. Suddenly my crying kid is annoying everyone and throwing shade. Elevators and seats clearly designated for strollers is often filled to the brim and nobody getting off/out.

    It’s a culture of hating kids.

    Fun fact. Women who have kids must give up their careers. Grandparents is culturally not allowed to help with the grand kids. Like, you pop them out, you take care of them yourself, often without even help from the father.