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  • Exactly what I wondered when this was brought up 6 months ago!

    https://vger.to/lemmy.world/comment/16311493

    This article is feeling kind of clickbaitish, as the sources are … odd.

    However, restricting blood flow to the brain can also have serious health implications.

    While not all pressure on the neck will be fatal, research shows even relatively low pressure can cause death by strangulation.

    The first source is a medical journal describing the physiology of the arteries in the neck, and does not seem to include anything about restricting blood flow (never mind temporarily) having serious health consequences.

    The second source is a book from 1991 about autoerotic asphyxiation with the quote:

    autoerotic asphyxia denotes death resulting from failure of a release mechanism of the device, apparatus or prop designed to attain cerebral hypoxia for heightened arousal.

    Which is … not the same as doing this with someone, and doesn’t address the risks of a partner who releases pressure immediately after a loss of consciousness.

    The issues around consent are troubling indeed, consent should always be paramount.

    I also found it amusing that the beginning of the article said

    Although rare, strangulation is the leading cause of death in consensual BDSM play.

    Which links to a study that found a total of 16 cases that included strangulation between 1982 and 2020. Rare indeed.

    My husband and I dabble in breath play, so I was curious and read a few studies myself. It seems that every case study I could find included atypical circumstances. Things like accidental hanging, or asphyxiation due to bags etc being over the head.

    This paper includes a 50 year review of cases for anyone interested. https://benthamopen.com/contents/pdf/TOFORSJ/TOFORSJ-1-1.pdf

    It is also worth noting that loss of consciousness due to cutting off blood flow to the brain (cerebral hypoxia) is not dissimilar to the hypoxia experienced by pilots, who even train with repeated exposure to hypoxia in hyperbaric chambers.

    I would be curious to know if there were any studies of the long term effects of this on pilots. (My dive into the rabbit hole is done for the day, lol.)


  • An article about this was posted 6 months ago and I looked into it: https://lemmy.world/comment/16311493

    I wrote:

    This article is feeling kind of clickbaitish, as the sources are … odd.

    However, restricting blood flow to the brain can also have serious health implications.

    While not all pressure on the neck will be fatal, research shows even relatively low pressure can cause death by strangulation.

    The first source is a medical journal describing the physiology of the arteries in the neck, and does not seem to include anything about restricting blood flow (never mind temporarily) having serious health consequences.

    The second source is a book from 1991 about autoerotic asphyxiation with the quote:

    autoerotic asphyxia denotes death resulting from failure of a release mechanism of the device, apparatus or prop designed to attain cerebral hypoxia for heightened arousal.

    Which is … not the same as doing this with someone, and doesn’t address the risks of a partner who releases pressure immediately after a loss of consciousness.

    The issues around consent are troubling indeed, consent should always be paramount.

    I also found it amusing that the beginning of the article said

    Although rare, strangulation is the leading cause of death in consensual BDSM play.

    Which links to a study that found a total of 16 cases that included strangulation between 1982 and 2020. Rare indeed.

    My husband and I dabble in breath play, so I was curious and read a few studies myself. It seems that every case study I could find included atypical circumstances. Things like accidental hanging, or asphyxiation due to bags etc being over the head.

    This paper includes a 50 year review of cases for anyone interested. https://benthamopen.com/contents/pdf/TOFORSJ/TOFORSJ-1-1.pdf

    It is also worth noting that loss of consciousness due to cutting off blood flow to the brain (cerebral hypoxia) is not dissimilar to the hypoxia experienced by pilots, who even train with repeated exposure to hypoxia in hyperbaric chambers.

    I would be curious to know if there were any studies of the long term effects of this on pilots. (My dive into the rabbit hole is done for the day, lol.)





  • I see DarkAri has deleted their comment, but I think it’s important that everyone can see what was written.

    This is the kind of unhinged nonsense we are up against. Accusations and ramblings that aren’t even relevant to my comment.

    The mass immigration has been by far the strongest reason that right wing politics became so popular. Dont delude yourself. The left fucked up. It’s not right to force half the country to tolerate mass immigration just because you think you are smarter then them. That is the shit that ruined democracy. Most democratic things are not about what is right or wrong. If another citizen doesn’t want to have a million Indians or muslims living in his hometown thats none of your business. It is his right to have a state that represents him so long as he isn’t advocating to take away anyone’s rights. You are lucky the Republicans are incredibly corrupt and stupid and are doing all the other things that the right hates,like censorship, taking away freedom, stuff like this. Your pathetic state is so desperate to micromanage everyone’s lives and monitor them that they just cannot help themselves to not ruin their own position again. The racism is strong, but half of the reason people voted for the right is because they perceived the left as being the side of censorship and mass surveillance and fascism, but they are getting a wakeup call now. Lucky for you their politicians are incredibly stupid and also many people who are actually right wing do have some decent values and character and will reject the Republican politics completely for this bullshit they are trying to pull. Don’t ever sell out your fellow citizens to the state and corporations again. We do not need them telling us what we can watch and read, and what we can vote on, we don’t need them or you policing our speech. We are free people just like you, not subjects and not slaves. If the leftists can actually learn to take responsibility for their shitty tactics they might actually get power again. The day they stop trying to ignore half the country is the day they will start getting popularity again. After the 2016 election with Hilary it’s pretty obvious how extremely corrupt they were, but now people are seeing how much more corrupt the right is. We got lucky this time but if the left doesn’t wise up they are going to lose everything for a few decades until right wing politics become lame again.



  • The issue isn’t that they don’t want immigrants, or want immigration reform.

    The issue is that they literally want remigration (ethnic cleansing of all non whites) and were threatening and ugly.

    They chose to hold a protest on a day when families were out enjoying different cultures.

    They were violent towards me and my children and husband, and spouted bullshit American rhetoric while doing it.

    Claiming that they like immigrants, they just don’t want illegal immigrants.

    Australia is an island! We lock up the immigrants who come by boat on an island! We don’t have illegal immigrants!




  • We are so fucked. There is no escaping this global rush of extremism.

    I am originally from the states, but was lucky enough to move to Australia 11 years ago.

    I thought I escaped the growing right wing crazy, and watched from afar as Trump was elected the first time, and my country descended into fascism.

    Then here in Australia there was a white supremacist rally. Then another.

    Then in my city there was a “March for Australia” organised by known white supremacists, but claiming not to be racist.

    “They just don’t want all this immigration”.

    Their website also said they wanted remigration.

    Remigration is an originally European far-right proposal for ethnic cleansing via the mass deportation of non-white immigrants and their descendants, sometimes including those born in Europe, to their place of racial ancestry.

    Sounds pretty racist to me.

    This march was planned for the final day of the state multicultural festival. Its planned start and end point was the park where the festival was being held.

    My family and I decided we would go. I haven’t been to a protest since I was a teenager, but I felt it was our duty to show that not everyone agrees with this.

    The day before the march our best friend said their friends were afraid to go out to lunch with them that day, because their parents were verbally assaulted in a grocery store on Friday for being immigrants.

    They later said people came to their parents house and were beating on the door and yelling about them being immigrants.

    My husband stood there in his suit, I stood in my pretty dress with flowers, our daughters held signs that said things like “so bad even the introverts are here”.

    The March was not peaceful and was definitely racist. We started off to the side, sitting with flags my daughters and I made with hundreds of countries on them, and eventually we were swarmed as the crowd veered to come right past us.

    They screamed obscenities at us, pushed into me, pushed my husband, tried to rip the sign from his hands. They ripped down the flags we made. Blew an air horn in our faces.

    Many claimed they were not racist but my husband got called a f-ing Jew multiple times??? Maybe it was the beard and the hat, I don’t know.

    Seemed pretty racist to me.

    Eventually police came and stood in front of us while we packed our things and left. We would do it again, in a heartbeat.

    Before the rowdy crowd came looking for trouble we had immigrants come up and thank us, hug us, and we want them to know that not everyone agrees with this march.

    Not wanting immigration is not what this march was about. This march was about fear and racism.

    I urge all of you, show up, make signs, show that not everyone agrees.





  • ^ This!

    I learned the retinol lesson the hard way. I used to use retin-a daily, and wasn’t careful about getting it near my eyes because I wasn’t sensitive to it.

    I now have chronic dry eye, this eventually got so bad I couldn’t see, and had to go get ipl treatments once a month, have the meibomian glands expressed, and have punctal plugs placed every month, then every few months. (don’t google any of that)

    After it got “better” I only have to do this stuff every 6 months…

    It’s expensive.

    Stay safe kids, never put a retinol near your eyes.


  • This is correct, I use this method a lot in my work with the disabled. Often with clients that struggle with mental health, it’s important to redirect negative thoughts and feelings, but you have to do this without jumping to condescending or infantilising language.

    The easiest way is to empathize with <negative thought or feeling> acknowledging it as worthy of the space it’s taking up and offering up something related that I might worry about. Then redirect with a similar subject, but framed in a way that gives more power over it. Maybe a news article that pointed out how <related thing> is being solved by someone, or overcome, or even simply made fun of.

    If you can laugh at something for being ridiculous it has less power.

    You don’t need to change their belief in <negative thought or feeling> you just need to redirect it and reframe it, they will then have a different mental relationship with it later, and over time change.